BULLYING

What is it?

Being bullied is never your fault. It doesn’t matter what colour hair you have; what trainers you are wearing; how you walk or how you talk. We are all different in some way and that’s what makes us amazing.
Whether you are a boy or a girl, old or young, big or small – bullying makes you feel rubbish and it’s okay to be upset about it. The important thing is that you tell someone about it.

What are the different types?

Bullying happens when people look different from others so you can imagine there are lots of different types.
Some of these are:-
• Racial
• Faith and religious bullying
• Disability
• Sexual orientation / homophobic (LGBT)
• The way they look, talk or what they do or do not have (known as Perceived Difference)
• A learning difficulty or are gifted/talented
• Child in Care or Young Carer
• Other reasons
Bullying can be verbal (spoken words) but can also be physical, through actions or online (cyber).

How do I identify it?

Bullying is behaviour that hurts someone else – such as name calling, hitting, pushing, spreading rumours, threatening or undermining someone.

It can happen anywhere – at school, on the way home, at home or online. It’s usually repeated over time and can hurt a child both physically and emotionally.

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Who can help?

If you feel you can, talk to a teacher you trust or a family member. If you don’t want to do that you can always call Childine on 0800 1111 or visit www.childline.org.uk.

Recommended self-care and management tips?

Write down what happened, when it happened and who was involved. If the bullying is online, keep the evidence – save or copy any photos, videos, e-mails or posts. Screenshot texts and messages on Snapchat etc.

It can be tempting if you are being bullied to take revenge – for example to send a horrible message back to someone. This is not a good idea – you might end up getting in trouble or get yourself even more hurt.

Think about other ways you can respond to bullying. For example, practice ‘standing tall’ (shoulders back, head held high) and walking away confidently (no looking back!). Think about other people who can help you if you are being bullied – this could be other classmates, or a teacher.

Only spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself. If someone constantly puts you down they are not a real friend and not worth your time.

Be kind to yourself. Do things that make you feel good, relax and make new friends. You might make music; write lyrics; draw cartoons; dance; act or join a sports club. This is your life so make sure it’s the best life possible – don’t let anyone bring you down.

Remember to respect other people! Just because someone is different to you and your friends – that doesn’t mean you are better than them or have a right to make them feel bad. If you make mistakes, say sorry. You don’t have to be friends with everyone – but you should always make it clear that you don’t like it when people are mean to and bully others.

What services are available?

ChildLine is the UK’s free, confidential helpline for children and young people. They offer advice and support, by phone and online, 24 hours a day. Whenever and wherever you need them, they’ll be there. Call 0800 1111.

Childline website have a designated page for bullying issues. This includes tips on identifying bullying, a new video about building up your confidence after bullying and a new art box tool where you can draw out how you are feeling.

EACH
EACH has a freephone Actionline for children experiencing homophobic bullying: 0808 1000 143. It’s open Monday to Friday 10am-5.00pm. http://www.each.education/

Other websites that you might find useful are:-

Kidscape
Kidscape is committed to keeping children safe from abuse. Kidscape is the first charity in the UK established specifically to prevent bullying and child sexual abuse. Kidscape believes that protecting children from harm is key. https://www.kidscape.org.uk/

Ditch the Label
Ditch the Label is a new anti-bullying charity for teenagers. It uses up to date social media to smash stereotypes and spread the message that there is no such thing as a label. For top tips to overcome bullying in the teenage years and inspirational stories visit http://www.ditchthelabel.org/